Embracing imperfection is harder than it seems.

We are continually fed a line of crap: be perfect (because everyone else is).  

On the surface it's a no-brainer.  Nobody is perfect, right?  No shit.  

Then why do we have such a hard time with it?  It's the reason we don't regularly publish.  It's the reason we hold back.  It's the reason we fear.  This little voice in the back of our heads keeps repeating "not good enough. not good enough. not good enough." 

Here's the thing.  

We all need a practice of dancing with our fear. 

It'll never go away, which is fine.  But pretending that it's not there is deadly.

Ironically, dancing with our own fears over and over again is the surest way to success.  It's the surest way to a full life.

Cut the crap. Fix your nutrition.

As a personal trainer I see it all the time. People come to me and ask me “Mike, what’s the secret?  What’s the thing I need to buy to see results?  Is it a supplement I haven’t heard of?  Is my food timing off?  What about those tea cleanses?  I’ve tried everything and NOTHING works!”

First of all, they’re focusing on the wrong stuff.  Someone that wants to run a marathon with a broken leg doesn’t buy a new treadmill.  No, they heal.  They give it time and try to keep off of that leg as much as possible.  Then, slowly, they begin to walk.  Then run. 

Fitness is the same thing. 

Don’t even say the words diet, supplement, or program for a month.  Trust me. 

Track your food.  How many calories are you getting?  That ‘healthy smoothie’ that you have every morning might not be as healthy as you think.  Track it and you’ll see.  (I had a client do this and she found that her daily morning smoothie was in excess of 800 calories EVERY DAY). 

Boom.  That’s half the battle.  Get your food to work for you by eating adequate calories.  (Don’t worry, you won’t have to track forever).

The magic in tracking your food is that it MAKES you good at nutrition.  You learn what has carbs, protein, and fats.  The macronutrients that we require to function. 

Fix your nutrition and the world is your oyster. 

Oh, and it costs nothing.

Internal Scorecards and Values

It's easy to weigh ourselves against an outside scorecard, such as how much money we make, whether or not we are keeping up with the Jones', how much we weigh, or how we think we look in the mirror. 

The real magic is in paying attention to internal scorecards.   "Does this align with my values?"  

It forces us to live deliberately, authentically.  

More importantly, it forces us to come to grips with our value system and whether or not we even have one.  

What are your values?  

Feed The Fire

I often talk about seasons and how we all go through them.  They're inevitable.  

  • We can't always be motivated.
  • We can't always be on our best game.
  • We can't always be improving in every area.

Can't can't can't.

The question is, how can we move through seasons gracefully?  Taking advantage at every turning point?  What can we do?

There are many answers to that question, but one of the main things is this: 

You gotta keep feeding the fire.

Fire is the motivation.  The hunger to move forward and upward.  

How you feed the fire is up to you.

"What To Do When It's Your Turn" Highlights

This book is great.  I'm almost finished with it.  Here's what stuck out:

"These people, in fact, all the people you admire, aren't better than you.  They're merely willing to live with the duality of work/not work, they care enough to fail, and they're focused enough to ship their work and take their turn."

"Not everything has to be okay.  Perhaps it might be bettter for everything to be moving.  Moving forward, with generosity.  Moving forward, with a willingness to live with the tension.  Moving forward, learning as you go.  The person who fails the most, wins."

"How motivated you are today has nothing to do with the opportunity and the obligation you face."  (looking at the work in front of us as a wonderful obligation is fresh take.  I love it.)

"Motivation is for amateurs."  Chuck Close

". . . the only long-term way to make it as an artist is to do it from a position of generosity, of seeking to connect and change people for the better.  But generosity, while it sometimes leads to it-feels-like-winning can never be based on winning, because winning requires other people to lose."

"It's never the right time."  (Talking about starting a business, a family, taking a risk, etc.

"At night, clouds can float in front of the moon, but it doesn't change the fact that the moon is still there.  There's nothing at all we can do about the clouds, and trying to will away our anxiety or to wait until we're in the mood to do our best is an invitation to frustration."


the design of this book is pure gold.  If anything, it was a joy to flip through because of design.  Seth Godin has made a masterpiece.